All-Love Type, Helping Type（Helper）

Very eager for the affection of others, I am passionate and willing to give love to others, and I feel that giving is worthwhile only if I see others accepting it contentedly.

All-loving people believe that nothing can surpass love. So the most important thing to live in the world is to express love, love has the power, love has confidence, thriving, so I think of me as an angel of love, non-stop to care for others, care for others.

To get everyone's heartfelt joy and love.

The total lover must feel that I am good at all times, that I have the ability to give love, that I am closely connected to the emotions and lives of others in order to have value for survival, and that if others don't need me and don't depend on me, the total lover feels that life is so lonely and boring.

The opposite of love is control or manipulation. To love others is to want them to love me, to need me and to listen to me.

In fact, the all-loving type of people do not realize that the real me has such motives in the subconscious, only when they give a lot and are not valued or appreciated, they find that they actually have a serious sense of emptiness and resentment.

A. Very warm to people, very nice to people, very patient.

B．Compassionate and willing to contribute what they have and give to others.

C．Being sincere, warm and generous.

D．When serving others, one is sleepless and sleepless, does not know tiredness, and feels excited.

E．Taking other people's success, joy and happiness as their own achievement.

F．Thinking that others are in need of something, they try their best to give it to others, and when others refuse, they think that they are pretending to be courteous.

G. Like others to rely on their own, to be relied on is to be valued, that is happy.

H．When you give, others do not know how to accept, you will feel frustrated.

I．Keep putting love in your mouth.

J. Can not help others, the heart will be very painful, and then go to think of ways to help.

K. Have jealousy, when others do not value themselves enough, will be very angry.

L．Like to talk, like human relations, but give very natural and easy to receive but feel very unnatural.

M．You often go out to help others, but when you stay at home, you are either on the phone or entertaining others.

Often very happy, energetic, very concerned about others, but also very nosy, emotions often with the case of joy, anger, sadness, happiness. Very emotional, very enthusiastic people, often feel that others are incompetent, little poor or too lazy, so like to do a good deed is actually doing more good.

All-loving people feel that they must be very good, to meet the needs of others, others will like themselves, so all-loving type of people in order to make themselves useful, to play the maximum tolerance and service qualities, such as when the social workers, deep into the poor areas, when the nurses for the injured patients to do love and patience. All-loving people always offer love and friendship to others in a self-sacrificing way.

When helping or serving others, the All-loving people sometimes have the behavior of making a name for themselves or controlling others with love, but they will soon tell themselves that it is just an added value and not something I intentionally want to do. Therefore, under the mask of love, they will still define themselves as absolutely kind and absolutely selfless in order to eliminate their own occasional sins.

All-love type of people due to too much like to invest in life, too concerned about the community, but the side of the daily life around the obligation to forget, especially for their own families always forget to pay. Because of all-love type of people are emotional, so plain, not exciting enough family life, will let them ignore or forget, then family members can not help but have a grudge.

The All-loving type often forgets their own fatigue in the midst of the public opinion of service, so when the All-loving type doesn't care about giving their time to others, they may suddenly realize that they are physically and mentally exhausted one day, and they collapse.

When people of the All-loving type were young, they realized that if they were well-behaved and pleasant, they would be noticed by their elders or people around them, so they developed the idea that in order to get love, they must pay a relative price for it, which is the creation of conditional love.

The ideal of the all-loving type is that I will help people, I can give to others, I have no need, and in order to achieve his ideal, he is often fixated on pleasing and pleasing people, and can be overly passionate and possessive; I will help you and you will have to like me, and you will have to appreciate me, in order for me to be of value.

When I help others, what I am avoiding is "I have a need", and my emotion is "you all need me", how can I do without my help? I suppress my own need to be a good person, and I have a compulsive need to please people, and I keep doing what I can to help people, and when I realize that I have a need, it will threaten the self-identity of being a human being, and I feel that I do not have the value of my own existence.

There are two kinds of self-defense machinations: repression, projection

I. Repression: self-deception not realizing that you are in need Often have very strong thoughts about helping others.

Projection: the person is in fact in need, and projects his or her need onto others, that it is his or her need, and that he or she must help others whether or not they are in need.

Less concerned about the real needs of others, only know to give others what they have, can not get others in return, deep down there is a sense of failure. The person who gives advice and is asked for help in an easy tone of voice is a seemingly "bad person" because he or she often does not fulfill his or her own needs and thinks that he or she is a person who gives a lot, not realizing that he or she also has needs. Experiencing that people around him have a lot of needs, easily falls into the idea of manipulating others when he thinks he really cares about them; gives what he imagines he needs, compulsively lectures people and saves them, is a nurse and mother to others.

Jealous, possessive, hysterical hurtful person; feels others have no conscience, I do so much without giving back. Doesn't get angry outright false modesty, is the most manipulative type. He is a bottomless pit when it comes to receiving love from others. He often belittles himself, doesn't care about himself, denies that he needs anything, finds it hard to ask people directly, is incapable of taking care of himself, and relies on the sympathy of others for a way to get others to love him. Pride is "others can't live without him". There is a lot of unadopted anger, feeling that others take advantage of him when they don't reciprocate. There is a lot of friendliness, quick to get close to people but unable to reach the depths, resting love and ideals on the surface, friendships that break off quickly, and a lot of illusions.

Unconditional love, able to give freely to others without having to be rewarded, the most considerate and loving of all personality types, learns to listen to their own rhythms and is able to honor their own needs and give to themselves as well. Experiencing genuine concern, truly loving people, doing for others, being responsible for others, giving substance, having their own point of view being able to come across their own needs.

Easily accepts others, is very sensitive to the atmosphere around him, sees, thinks, and listens from the point of view of others, has the ability to empathize with others, and is giving love, care, and praise to the people of the world. The ability to suffer with those who suffer, very autonomous in socialization . To express gratitude, to meet the help of others, to accept and own the needs I can have, I can help others without the need for others to give back, to help others and love others are the characteristics of this type of person.

Neglected since childhood, and have to bear the responsibility of being an adult.

All-loving type --- Always remind yourself to "keep love for yourself", you have to understand that it is not easy to get love from giving, if you give too much and tire yourself out, what you get will be sadness. The only way to get love from others is to love yourself first.

When you want to give → stop the urge to give → ask yourself what you really need → fulfill your own needs